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Shawna Crabill, Marriage Therapist, Family Therapist, Individual Therapist, Couple Therapist, Therapist

At times we can fall flat on our faces and feel like giving up. But it is important to remember that rarely is anything in this world easy. Most people are so terrified of failure they don’t even have the courage to try. But what they don’t understand is each time you run into a set-back-maybe have problems in your marriage, or got fired from a job, it’s important to always remember two things: You are not the only one who has ever failed, and each step back is actually an opportunity to learn, to grow, and then try again.

“I have not failed-I simply have found 10,000 ways that just don’t work.”

Perhaps the best way to personify is with a single name, Edison!

The inventor Thomas Alva Edison, at the time of his death, had successfully applied for and received a world record 1,093 patents in his lifetime (either singularly or jointly). But before he invented such remarkable things like the lightbulb, the phonograph, and one of the first motion picture cameras, he was a horrible student told by his teachers he was “too stupid to learn anything” and left school without any formal education.

But everyone in the world knows his name and what he accomplished.

“There are no rules here — we’re trying to accomplish something.”

In fact, Edison was fired from his first two jobs for being “non-productive” yet somehow the world’s most famous inventor knew something about failure that others did not.

“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

If you have reached a point where you feel like you cannot go any further or you have tried everything that there is to try, just think about the 10,000 ways any other Edison’s inventions didn’t work and ask yourself-How bad do you want it.

“When you have exhausted all possibilities, remember this – you haven’t.”

But you are determined- not defeated, asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness-it’s a testament to adapting and learning from your mistakes. Even a genius mind like Edison needed help getting started along the way- reaching out to friends like J.P. Morgan and the Vanderbilt family. You have friends too! Shawna Crabill LMFT, of Charleston, SC, is a trained professional who can help you or your family identify your worth and how to empower it.

She knows all too well exactly what you are going through and ready to help. Take back control and overcome your fear of failure today!


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